Aging Should make us better, not bitter

Jeanne Beker: What I’ve learned in 60 years


http://www.thestar.com/living/fashion/article/1147803--jeanne-beker-what-i-ve-learned-in-60-years
 
I’ve learned that passion is a necessity, not a bonus.

I’ve learned the only constant in life is change; we must try not to resist it.
I’ve learned that humility is a virtue; that ego often gets in the way of progress, and that compromise is not a dirty word.
I’ve learned that while we can’t always tell the truth, we must try never to lie. Especially about our age.
I’ve learned that generosity is rewarded, even if it’s just with good feelings.
I’ve learned that we sometimes have to sink to the depths of misery before we can soar. Suffering is a part of life. It inevitably makes us stronger.
I’ve learned that inner beauty is the only kind that really counts. But good lighting helps.
I’ve learned that great style has little to do with what you wear. It’s how you wear it and who you are. Confidence is the best fashion accessory.
I’ve learned never to wish to be in someone else’s shoes — you never really know where they’ve come from or where they’re going.
I’ve learned that life’s biggest joys have little to do with wealth and power; that great art often comes out of great turmoil; and that my friends are precious jewels who teach me, inspire me and look out for me. I try to do the same for them.
I’ve learned that pets are a blessing, and provide us with profound unconditional love. I learn so much from my pets.
I’ve learned that compassion is what brings us together.
I’ve learned to try to keep an open mind, and more importantly, an open heart.
I’ve learned that love is not always absolute: It can be as imperfect as the people we fall for.
I’ve learned that chipped nail polish is a dead giveaway that you’re not taking enough time for yourself.
I’ve learned that worrying is a waste of time.
I’ve learned that we’re all ultimately alone, though I don’t particularly like the notion.
I’ve learned that a broken heart can heal, but the scars will always be there to remind you. We never really get over loss. We just learn to live with it.
I’ve learned that even though I’ve been cheated, I never want to lose trust in people. Still, I’d rather not count on anything — or anyone — but myself.
I’ve learned that sharing our innermost feelings and personal experiences is the greatest gift we can give one another; that laughter is the best medicine; and that while you can never go wrong if you dress in black, colour is more likely to lift your spirits.
I’ve learned that we should try not to be so hard on ourselves; that we have to take risks in order to achieve greatness, and that no one comes to rescue you if you don’t try to rescue yourself.
I’ve learned that jealousy is venomous; that hate is a waste of energy and passion, and that working out is as important for your mind as your body.
I’ve learned that losing weight and keeping it off is all about mind over matter.
I’ve learned that we must always try to do our best — and that most of us usually do.
I’ve learned that God never gives us more than we can handle; that no one escapes from life unscathed, and that if you leap, the net will appear.
I’ve learned that aging should make us better, not bitter.
I’ve learned that Botox can help.
I’ve learned that if we can’t change our situation, we can always change our perspective; that the older we grow, the more ourselves we become; and that if you want something to happen, you have to try making it happen yourself.
I’ve learned that life isn’t usually black and white. Most often, it’s an interesting shade of grey.
I’ve learned that if it feels good, wear it.
I’ve learned the greatest lesson we can teach our children is kindness, and the greatest lesson our children can teach us is the importance of encouraging their dreams.
I’ve learned that the squeaky wheel gets the grease; that if you don’t ask, you don’t get; and that you have to be careful what you ask for, because it may not be what you really want.
I’ve learned to stand up for my rights.
I’ve learned to try not to hold a grudge, or take myself too seriously, or judge people too quickly.
I’ve learned to wear my heart on my sleeve, and speak my mind whenever possible. Life’s too short for guessing games.
I’ve learned that we must tell those we love and appreciate how much we love and appreciate them, and that we can only hope to get out of life what we ultimately put into it.
I’ve learned that true bliss in life is all in the balance — though trying to strike it, and then maintain it, is perhaps the greatest struggle of all.
I’ve learned that just when I’m about to give up, miracles happen.
So I’ve learned to have faith. Still, we often forget what we know. Because, I’ve learned, we’re only human, after all.

Jeanne Beker is a contributing editor to the Star and host of Fashion Television. Email her at jeanne@ctv.ca, follow her on Twitter (@jeanne_beker) and watch her on CTV, E! and FashionTelevisionChannel.

A person's true nature, #fb

If in the darkness of ignorance,you dont recognize a person's true nature, look to see whom he has chosen for his leader. -Rumi, Mathnawi [IV, 1640

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Pearls of Wisdom

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The eye of a small person makes small things look large. And the eye of a great person makes great calamities look small. [Mutanabbih]
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“It is astonishing how people can influence others, simply by keeping their company. Don’t take a companion unless their state elevates you, and that they take you closer to God. Don’t have friends that complain all the time. There’s nothing worse than to be around a complainer. Be around people that uplift you, that are positive, optimistic. Help people with their problems, but put yourself in environments that help you move forward. And don’t be of the people out there that don’t want to see others succeed.”
- Ustadh Yahya Rhodus

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Aug
Eda LeShan:


Becoming responsible adults is no longer a matter of whether children hang up there pajamas or put dirty towels in the hamper, but whether they care about themselves and others -- and whether they see everyday chores as related to how we treat this planet.

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Aug 22, 2010
"I focus on what's really important in life. Quality rather than appearance...ethics rather than rules...integrity rather than domination...knowledge rather than achievement...serenity rather than acquisitions." - Dr. Wayne Dyer
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Aug 22, 2010
‎'The loving, innocent world of animals serves as a good example for me.' The more you stop to observe animals and learn from them, the healthier and more peaceful your life will be. - Dr. Wayne Dyer

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Aug 19, 2010
"The world is not
dangerous because of those who do harm but because of those who look at
it without doing anything” Albert Einstein"

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Aug 05, 2010
"It is better to sit alone than in company with the bad; and it is better still to sit with the good than alone. It is better to speak to a seeker of knowledge than to remain silent; but silence is better than idle words." (Bukhari)

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July 17,2010
“The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value. I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress and grow brave by reflection. ‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink; but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death”

~ Thomas Paine
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July 12,2010
Imam Zaid Shakir - "True religion shines from the face of the believer and impresses itself on others without words. It is subsequently followed by words that are uplifting and beneficial."

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July 12,2010
Prophet Muhammad (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “The most blessed nikah is the one with the least expenses.” [Bayhaqi]

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Jul 08 , 2010
How to Be Curious?Cultivate a habit of asking good questions. Understand that we can experience miracles if we're inquisitive.
Realize that we know very little and there's discovery and adventure around every corner.
Inquire into new ideas, people, situations, places.
Open our minds to others' points of view. Unleash our inner child, who is naturally inquisitive.
Suspend judging and evaluating?there's always time for that later.

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Jul 04 , 2010
The hypocrite looks for faults; the believer looks for excuses”- Abu Hamid al-Ghazali

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Jul 01 2010
Friendship takes many years to establish; so do not fall out with a friend over a single disagreement.-Sadi, 'Gulistan

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"I try to teach my children that being successful isn’t necessarily about performing a specific task, being in a certain occupation, or living in a particular location. It’s about sharing yourself in a creative, loving way using the skills and interests that are inherently part of you." - Dr. Wayne Dyer

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Derision, ridiculing people, making jest at their expense, mocking them is a form of ignorance, whether it is lampooning, caricaturing, or name calling. Humour and levity are important in human life. But levity as a way of life harms the spiritual heart. And laughter and amusement at the expense of the dignity of others is wholly inappropriate.

Ali ibn Abi Talib said, "Do not belittle anyone, for he may be a saint of God." Imam al-Qurtubi once said, "When he was bowing down to idols in Makkah, Umar ibn al-Khattab was still beloved to God." Only God knows the seal of people and their destinies. A Moroccan proverb says, "Never mock any creature of God, for it might be beloved to He who created it."

Compiled From:

"Purification of The Heart" - Hamza Yusuf, pp. 141,142

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"People with wisdom know that it is important to correct their own mistakes, while people without wisdom find it necessary to point out the mistakes of others. People with strong faith know that it is important to clear their own hearts, while those with unsteady faith seek to find fault in the hearts and prayers of others." M. R. Bawa Muhaiyaddeen

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